My take on what women want! – 23/6/11

1. Women want men who exhibit confidence (or power) 

2. Women want men with a sense of humour (fun)

3. Women want men with money or the things money can buy (sense of security)

4. Women want men with looks (protection and attraction)

5. Women want men with a bit of “Bad boy” qualities (mysterious and independent/strong)

6. Women want all the other stuff they typically list (varies – sensitive, caring, etc.)

My Mrs agrees with this shit, however there is an expanded list that us lads must get familiar with in order to get what we want out of our women.  Remember whether you like it or not, this IS a game!  

1.  Women want a man to be confident!  Confidence is the number one quality women look for.  Don’t be wimpy.  Don’t apologize for everything.  Be real.  Be you.

2.  Women want a man who makes her feel like she’s the only one.  For example, opens the door for her, walks on the right side of the street, helps her shop (I hate this one).  I’m talking about being a GENTLEMAN!  If she is cold, offer her your jacket.  If she is in trouble, protect her.  If there is danger, put your arm around her.  This is how a real man operates!

3.  Women want a man with a sense of humour.  A woman will almost always love a man who can make her laugh.  If you are dull, you are boring.  If you make a woman laugh, you’re halfway home.  

4.  Women want a man to listen to them and not necessarily give advice.  Many women love to complain about their problems; however, they complain not to receive advice, but merely to get it off their chest.  I know it’s hard to nod and be supportive, because you want to watch Sky Sports or do something that to you may seem more exciting, but the fact is, your woman will go to the ends of the earth for you when you truly listen and acknowledge their needs.  No pain, no gain!

5.  Women want men to treat them like they are the sexiest woman on the planet and that no other woman compares.  Talking about your ex-girlfriends is not going to score big points.  Treating her like she’s the ONLY one gets you what you want. 

6.  Women want loyal men. Women want to know you will be faithful.  Self explanatory, don’t shag about!

7.  Women SAY they want a sensitive man.  Truth is, if you go around apologising all the time and crying frequently then … a woman will abuse you.  Being overly sensitive is a quick way to get shown the door.  It is important to strike a balance.  Be strong, be there, yet share your emotions. Speak up and be real. Let them know you care.  But don’t be a pussy.

Women say they want to be treated like an equal.  This is not true.  Women want to be treated like a WOMAN.  Not like a man.  This is not to be confused with being treated like a piece of property, not to be confused with being treated with disrespect.  Women want to be respected! 

8.  Women LOVE a man with a plan.  Women love men with ambition.  Men who know who they are, what we’re doing tonight, and what we’re doing with our life.  If you don’t have a plan, get one.  I have a plan (a) and plan (b) ready at all times, so that no matter what, it will appear I’m fairly spontaneous, but reality is I usually know where, when, and how the evening or date could go. In dating, it is extremely important that you have a plan when you ask a woman out. They will judge your sense of confidence by how well you have thought out where you will take her and what you will do together. So, think ahead, have a plan, then work that plan. While you’re at it make sure you have an alternative plan, too, in case she doesn’t like the first one!

It is equally important for a man to know when to call a woman’s bluff and let her know when she is pushing his limits.  A man who just falls over and laps at his woman’s feet is a man who is called “whipped” for a reason.  An example is as follows:  she asks, “what do you want to do tonight,” he says, “whatever you want to do.”  If this is his consistent pattern, he’s whipped.  She won’t respect him in the end.

 9.  Women want generous men. Don’t be a tight-wad. Give the woman in your life gifts.  Like the Chairman of the Board, Ol’ Blue Eyes, Frank Sinatra, used to say, “you gotta gift ‘em.”  Well, I figure good enough for Frank, good enough for me. After all, Frank was a master swooner. He nailed Gina Lollobrigida and Ava Gardner. That’s like saying Jennifer Lopez and Megan Fox in the modern world!

10.  Be a true friend. LISTEN TO HER. Let her share her good times and problems with you.  Be there, rather than just promising to be there.

11.  Make her growl.  Sexually speaking, women define great sex differently than men, using words like soft candlelight, light touch, then becoming more aggressive as their mood rises to the occasion.  A man, on the other hand, instantly rises to the occasion. Women want men to be their lover instead of obsessing over their body to just get sex. Rather than treat women as sex objects, treat them as someone to relate with; in other words, a real person! That means taking your time, showing extra attention, and being tender in ways with her to let her know she is special.  Then – BOOMSHAKALAKA

12.  Women appreciate a man who is creative.  Roses are nice.  But sometimes it is extra special to think of something that most guys wouldn’t do for a woman.  It could be something frivolous, but if it is something that you think SHE would like, then why not do it?  You might have just made her day.

13.  Women want men who offer a sense of security, to know that her partner will be there if she becomes sick or when she grows old or flabby.  Giving a woman security is being there through emotional and physical support.  An example might be if she has to have surgery.  Take the day off and be there for her, hold her hand, and give your full support to her. 

Like I said at the start, in no way am I an expert and sometimes I can’t be assed following through with the things I’ve written above.  However, when I do, my life is by far a better place.

Enjoy!